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Most of us become temperamental. Maybe because of stress, pressure, hurts and pains. But this is not an excuse for us to lash out on people. To live a soulful life, God is telling us that we should be able to control our temper. We should be "quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry". Some of us have developed a habit of using vulgar words everyday. It has become a part of their everyday language. I know it is hard.

I wouldn't be a hypocrite. I'll tell you I suffer in having a controlled temper. Let me share you my story:

When I was a high school student, I was so irritable. I'll get home from school feeling tired and stressed. I would just lock myself up in my room until it was time for dinner. It was my daily habit. I didn't want to be disturbed. So every time my siblings would knock at my door for anything, I'd get irritated. I would also get irritated if things would go my way. My mom talked to me about it, but I was not in negotiation to change. I used my being tired and stressed at school a reason for my flaring temper. It went on for 2 years, I guess. But because of my flaring temper, my sibling became afraid of me. They would hesitate coming to me for help. My little sister was more afraid of me than to my mom. After I had accepted Jesus into my life, I prayed to God to change me. It didn't happen overnight. Through the years, my flaring temper was getting controlled. I'm not easily irritated anymore. And I've mended my relationship with my siblings.

Anyway, I do have a temper problem, again. I don't know when it started.  It is not like before. Well, now I don't easily get irritated. I seldom become angry.  But when I do, I lash out on people. My untamed tongue would get the better of me. I'd shout and punch whatever that is near me. But the difference now is that because I do know I have a temper problem, I'm trying to control it once again. It bothered me because though I haven't punched a person, I'm afraid that if I didn't get a hold on it, it might one day get to that. So when I do get angry, I'd would take a walk. Get some fresh air, and pray to God to calm me down. It also helps singing a song. If I do have my bible, I also read the word of God. And when I am calm, I deal with the reason. I talk to the person involved and make my side known in a calmly manner, and try to resolve whatever the problem is.

I know how hard it is to control a temper and tame a tongue. Having an uncontrolled temper could damage relationship. Well, I almost lost a good friendship because of my temper. It is not a sin to be angry, the way we deal with is the one we're looking at. Anyway, God is faithful. Just pray to him, and he will guide you to be better. It doesn't have to be overnight but little by little with God's word as our guide, we will be able to change.
God bless!